Those who only want to travel have options on a strict budget have options; WWOOFing, volunteering, teaching,and work-and-travel programs are all rapidly gaining popularity. Au pairing, however, offers the opportunity to work closely with children.Personally, I didn’t become an au pair just to travel. I love children and also wanted the opportunity to use something I enjoy as a means of supporting myself. I hope (and believe) that this sentiment is shared with many au pairs. Often, host families choose us because they hope we can teach their kids French/German/English/Klingon etc., which makes bonding difficult. So, we want to be close to “our” kids, but what’s an au pair to do when said kids can’t don’t speak his/her language?
First, get down on their level. Literally. Imagine living in a world where you have to crane your neck to look anyone in the eye. Standing to talk to a four year old can be intimidating for them, especially when they don’t know what you’re saying. Crouch or sit on the floor when speaking to your host kids and do your best to establish direct eye contact in order to get a better response and hold their attention.
Second, get silly and play lots. Sing songs with the kids, have fashion shows, dance parties and make dumb faces with them. If your host kid likes dinosaurs, perfect your t-rex walk. If she likes cats, learn to meow with abandon.
Thirdly, find wordless ways to show affection. Some kids are super cuddly. Take advantage of this. Tickling, hugging and laughing together are all ways to help a child warm up to you. Surprise them with special activities, like baking cookies together. Participate in activities like digging in a sandbox or jumping on a trampoline rather than just supervising.
Above all, be patient. Learning a new language is hard, and can be both emotionally and mentally exhausting. Remain calm, speak in short sentences and remember that, just as Rome wasn’t built in a day, Latin wasn’t learned in one either.